ARE YOU LEADING A DOUBLE LIFE ?
I’m all about having it all – this AND that, instead of this OR that. I firmly believe that you can and should express ALL of who you are when it comes to living life on purpose. I believe that you should not hold back from doing things because you think you shouldn’t do them, or that you do things because you think you should.
However, it is possible to self-sabotage yourself if you don’t understand HOW to have it all.
Let me explain…
Here are a couple of examples:
You want to launch your business. You’ve spent the last year building, building, building and just when you are on the cusp of stepping out into the world in a bigger way, you decide to go to a weeklong festival right in the middle of planning and your big launch takes a back seat to your adventure.
You invest an enormous amount of money, time and energy into getting getting your yoga teacher training certificate. You pushed through the resistance it took to get through the course and now that you can finally start leading the workshops you’ve been envisioning for years, you don’t feel like you know enough so you don’t put your work out there. Then you go sign up for an herbalism course, invest the time, money and energy into that and then you do the same thing and shrink back, thinking you still don’t know enough. And so you sign up for another….. you get the point.
What’s happening here is that you are leading a double life. You say you want one thing, take the steps to make it happen, but then shrink back because of your fear and resistance. Your actions are in alignment.until they aren’t.
You do one thing that is in total alignment. Then you let the inner self-saboteur take over and so you do another thing that is out of alignment.
And here’s the thing – You can have it all.
You can launch your business and go to that festival. You can get the yoga and herbalism certificates.
But you need to do it in an aligned way.
What I mean by this is that you need to be strategic AND you need to make your decisions from your heart, not your head.
Because what’s really happening when you decided to go to that festival is that you felt like you needed to have the mind expanding experience in order to have the strength to launch your business, but you already have the strength. It’s really your fear that’s got you pulling back and sabotaging your big launch.
And when you sign up for the next certification when you haven’t even used the first one, you’re doing it because you feel like it will make you more qualified and people will take you more seriously, but the truth is that people would believe in you and take you seriously, certificate or not. YOU just have to believe in you.
So go to the festival and have the mind expanding experience, then spend the next 12 months moving the lessons you learned out into the world through your business.
Get the herbalism certificate, but teach the yoga workshops while you do.
You can have it all – and you can have it all THIS SECOND. But you need to make the decision that you are worthy of having it all.
<this could be a good spot to add a bit of your personal stuff here, I don’t think it has to be crazy in depth but def a bit of yourself and journey>
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WHEN YOU ARE FEELING JUDGED
Some time back I had an amazing weekend in NYC with my fiancé and our son. We were in town to see our favorite band, Phish, and we had an ah-mazing time!
Soooo many breakthroughs!
One of these breakthroughs was around being true to yourself – even when you are afraid of being judged… in order to stay on purpose.
For my man and I, live Phish shows are like going to church. Every show I see, I experience some level of healing and open up to a heightened awareness of self and soul purpose. Their music was also the catalyst that helped me to wake up and get present, which led me to radical healing and beginning to live on purpose. Like I said – it’s my church!
I should also add that the band Phish has a reputation of having a party scene. I know this because I used to contribute to that scene before my awakening.
Now my point in sharing that is because we brought along our 4 month old son, Oliver. As a parent, everyone seems to have an opinion, but I wasn’t going to let that stop me. I know my child, I know myself, I know the scene and I know the venue. We also have a great pair of baby earmuffs and I’d be carrying him on my chest the whole time in my Ergo Carrier. At the end of the day, my babe is always safest with his mama and papa.
And yet…. I had an intense moment where I really questioned myself.
Should I have left him with my mom? Am I a bad parent?
What will people think of me?
I made the decision that bringing Oliver with us was right for our family.
And while nothing happened at the shows to cause me to change my mind, I caught myself getting sucked into a thought pattern of not trusting myself and feeling like I was a horrible parent.
This called me to attention.
I stopped. I checked on Oli, he was fine. I looked around, nothing had changed, everything was fine. And it was in that moment that I realized I was wasting my precious energy listening to the fears of my ego instead of the truth inside of my heart.
So I had to ask myself: “Is this true?”
Am I bad mother? Absolutely not!!! My son was sleeping soundly, cozied up on my chest, healthy as can be, surrounded by likeminded people, joyfully experiencing music that heals the soul.
Are people judging me? No – and if they are – who cares?! I know I’m a good mama and if I felt uncomfortable at any point, I’d be out of there in a flash.
My purpose in that moment was to be present
with the experience, to dance and to have an amazing time so that I could have the breakthroughs my soul was yearning for.
I share this story with you for a couple of reasons:
- If you are ever feeling judged by others, check in with yourself. You are the only person who can make you feel any sort of way. Be confident in your decisions and the rest can fall away
- When you get caught up afraid of what others might be thinking of you, you lose touch with YOUR truth and fall off purpose. If I had listened to the fear, I might have gotten up and left, missing out on all the powerful downloads and breakthroughs that come through for me at Phish shows!
At the end of the day, you have to be true to you. Don’t allow the thoughts, fears or emotions of others take you off purpose. You have no one to answer to except yourself. You choose how you want to feel in any moment, so choose wisely!
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Happy New year!!! I hope you had a great holiday stretch and are soaking up the last days before Monday hits. I’m excited to get back into the swing of things after a nice stretch of vacation time. How about you?
Did you know that only 8% of people who make a resolution actually follow through and make it happen? What if you actually achieve exactly what you say you want to achieve this year? What if you were in the 8%?
Five years ago on New Years Day I decided to really took myself on – body, mind and spirit and that was the year I began Return to Roots.
In 2015, I started training for half marathon, as well as the year my businesses popped over 6 figures.
What do you want to see happen this year for you? Do you believe you can make it happen? What would it take for you to make 2016 “THE” year you did it?
Here’s a quick little video I shot today on this exact idea and what it takes to be in the 8% of people who are successful with their resolutions.
If you haven’t already – I invite you to set some deep intentions by signing up for my
F R E E 10-day training for women
who want to make great money doing what they love.
I am going to really bare my shadow side with you today.
But before I do, I have to ask: Do you realize how fierce you truly are? Do you know your power?
Today, I am a fierce goddess who creates what I desire most in my life. But I wasn’t always like this.
I’ll start here… I spent a year abroad in Thailand in 2009. It was one of the most eye-opening experiences I’d had to date. It was my first time out of the country and it pushed my comfort zone like nothing I’d ever done before.
Yet when I returned home, I still had so much that I needed to process, which required that I hang outside of my comfort zone. But I didn’t give myself to do that because life back in the states was “normal” and, like I’d always done before, I just wanted to just fit in. So instead of staying on a path of personal awareness and awakening, I chose to cover it all up with men, alcohol and psychedelics. That was easier – or so it seemed.
It got ugly. I lost myself – I went further down the rabbit hole than ever before. I spun out of control.
I tried to “find myself” in drugs and partying. But really, I was putting a cover over who I really was because I was afraid of her. I didn’t know how to love myself – and I believed that I could only find validation from others. So I surrounded myself with others who accepted this altered version of Meagan.
Yet one day, I woke up alone, broke & broken. I couldn’t keep it up anymore. I thought… “I just want to be happy. There must be more to life than this.”
30 days later, I moved up to the mountains of Pennsylvania, where I knew virtually no one, to take care of 5 amazing children… and to find myself.
I didn’t know where to begin, so I just started by hooping every day – I knew that being in my hoop was a space that I felt good. Then I began to exercise every day, because I wanted to feel good about my body. Then I began to journal because I was beginning to bring up a lot of “stuff” and wanted to get it on record. Then I started eating healthy because I wanted to feel clean and pure.
Step by step, I was opening myself up – like a book, reading each page and learning something new.
What happened was that I no longer needed anyone to validate me. I only needed me.
3 months later… Return to Roots (my first real business) was born. No experience. No connections. Just my own faith that I could handle it.
I share this with you because I want you to see yourself in this story of transformation. Wherever you are today… know that you are capable of SO MUCH. The challenging experiences are necessary and are meant to show you how strong and capable you really are.
Ever since that experience – just 5 years ago – I learned that I had power. I learned that I didn’t need anyone or anything to give me power. I realized that I had it all within me – and you, my dear – you have it all within you too.
Use those times where you are pushed to your limit… use those moments to set fire to the limited version of WHO YOU ARE and step further into who YOU DESIRE TO BE.
Rise like the phoenix – it’s what the fire is for. ????
I think it’s time for some transparency! Why not learn from the example of others, right?
So here goes: I have ADHD – that’s attention deficit hyperactive disorder – and it can make it really challenging for me to be present and in the moment – in my life and business.
So why am I sharing this with you if I am business coach who teaches people how to be successful?
Well… I know that a lot of people (especially in the world we live in today) have ADD or ADHD. I also know that a lot of conscious entrepreneurs and visionary entrepreneurs have ADD/ADHD – and that’s actually part of what makes you so perfect for entrepreneurship! (You can learn what those are in a Periscope I did called How to Leverage Your ADD/ADHD to Rock Your Biz!)
Anyway, this blog isn’t about ADD/ADHD, this blog is about this month’s theme:
I’ve been go-go-go all summer long – from meetings to visiting family, producing Return to Roots Gathering, selling out my private coaching program, and training for a(nother!) half marathon. It’s been non-stop. Summer can have that effect on some people!
But now that summer is winding down, I am setting myself up for a really successful winter. I have a group coaching program that I am writing content for right now, another summit, and some awesome winter plans (my man and I are spending our winter closer to the equator!).
But in order to really focus and make sh*t happen, I have to get really present.
Presence, by definition is: the state or fact of existing, occurring, or being present in a place or thing.
In order to achieve your goals and be successful, you’ve got to take time to get intimate or practice presence – with your lover, your business, your family, etc.
It’s in the moments of being present that we can go deeper and really focus on the things that matter.
If you are lacking presence in your life now, you may be showing some of these “symptoms”:
- You spend a ton of time on the computer.
- Your creativity is blocked.
- You are having a hard time processing ideas, issues, situations, etc.
- It’s hard to “turn off” your mind.
- You aren’t feeling like yourself – you’re in a funk.
- You are “busy” all the time.
If you feel like I just described what you are going through right now, I would love to invite you to join me this month and get really present in your life so that you can rock out the project you have in front of you!
Here are some ways you can bring more presence into your life:
- Read: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
- Meditate every day (if you have a hard time shutting off your brain, try a guided meditation on Youtube).
- Get 15 minutes or more of exercise each day.
- Integrate some yoga into your day.
- Put the phone down! Stop idly scrolling your downtime away.
- Turn off social media notifications on your phone (unless they are for my Periscopes! I’ll be scoping on the topic of presence all month!).
- Limit your time spent on social media (ie: close the FB tab!).
- Do a 24-hour (or more) electronics detox.
- Wait an hour or so first thing in the morning before hopping on any devices and sign off 1-2 hours before bed.
- Turn off you email notification sound.
So, I would LOVE to hear from you – does this resonate with you? Do you need to integrate more presence into your life? Are you going to adopt this theme for September, as well? What do you do to get more present? Feedback or questions?
Go ahead and post below! xo Meagan
Check it out and comment below to know what this brings up for you. xo Meagan
I just attended an amazing retreat/entrepreneurial mastermind and during the discussion I lead, I realized how many people focus their energy on the wrong things in their business, and by doing so, slow (or completely halt) success
So, this video is about removing the blocks that are keeping you from getting the success and freedom you want in your life and business.
Yes, I am in a pool! And you could be too, just watch this and hear what’s being shared – with an open heart and a successful mind.
Comment below and share any thoughts or takeaways you have from this video!
Ciao for now!
But you can do it. Today’s video was something that really just came through me and I really needed to share this with you before the weekend hits.
Watch this and then make the decision – are you ready to stop waiting for your business to happen to you and HAPPEN TO YOUR BUSINESS?? Be the force of change.
Watch this and if you hear me, let’s talk.